When you work at home and you are a mom, you are bound to get stressed. But the stress does not have to impair your ability to be productive and get your job done. Trust me… I have been there and done that! Using my experiences and the lessons I learned, I have created this series to help you manage WAHM life and the stress that comes with it.
To recap, in part 1 of this series, we discussed the importance of organizing your schedule / time (click here to read the post). In part 2, we discussed defining your work space (click here to read the post). Part 3 was about investing in yourself and in your business (click here to read the post). Part 4 discussed the importance of finding your tribe / support system (click here to read the post). In Part 5 I talked about getting your kids involved when you work from home and how that’s going to look different depending on the ages of your children (click here to read the post). This post (which I can’t believe is the final post in the series) will discuss self-care, which is probably the most important step of them all.
What Is Self-Care?
Self-care is when you actually take a break and do something for yourself. Taking the time to do something for yourself, no matter how big or small it is, serves as a refresher to help energize you. It also helps you to refocus on what you need to do (you know… that long to-do list). Why? Because as moms, it is easy to forget who you are and why you’re doing what you’re doing. A break is NEEDED to take care of yourself.
What Can You Do As Self-Care?
Self-care should be done everyday and does not have to do be anything major. Simple self-care ideas include: journaling, meditating, exercising, reading, listening to a podcast, coloring, unplugging from social media and/or watching TV (to name a few). Other self-care ideas which may require more time/effort include: getting your hair done, getting a manicure and pedicure, going to the movie theater to watch a movie, taking a bubble bath (bonus points for diffuse essential oils and adding some salts), grabbing lunch/drinks with your girlfriends where you can have an adult conversation with no interruptions and/or going on a date with your significant other (which is extremely important to do). Big ticket self-care items include going on a vacation for one night (or seven nights), spending a day at the spa,
The Best Part Of Self-Care…
The best part of self care is that you decide what you do and when you do it. Only you know what is going to be beneficial to you and when the best time of day for you to focus on you is. For example, you can do some yoga when you first wake up in the morning (before everyone in the house wakes up) or read a book when everyone is asleep. Whatever you do, it is important to remember that your self care will not look the same as someone else’s.
Do Not Make Excuses!
Knowing how important self-care is, I will admit that I used to make a lot of excuses as to why I could not practice self-care. Excuses I made included: not having (aka not trusting) anyone close to us to watch my daughters; my daughters needing “xyz” before I can do something for myself; feeling guilty because I was not making a significant income and our income could be use for something more important; and more. I put myself last and gave my all to my family. However, it took its toll. Why? Because whenever I get stressed or overwhelmed, it manifests itself physically and I get sick or injured which is not good for anyone.
It took me seven years to start practicing self-care… yes 7 years!!! That was when I realized that I really needed a break and a way to revitalize myself. To do so, my husband and I decided to go away for a weekend leaving my daughters with my parents. After spending quality time together and doing what we want and when we want, we came back so happy, energized and ready to work. It was then that I realized I needed to do more for me… so I did.
Another example of how I decided to practice self-care was to hire a cleaning lady to help me clean the house every two weeks. Having an autoimmune disease that affects my joints, cleaning for long periods of time cause my disease to flare up which prevents me from performing my daily duties. It has been such a huge load off of my shoulders… and again something I did not know I needed until I had it. So don’t make excuses and make sure to take care of yourself!
Practice, Practice, Practice…
I cannot stress enough how important self-care is. Take a break. Breathe. Do something that will make you happy and energized. When you take take care of yourself, you are able to focus more and work better.
So heres my challenge to you… each day this week, take at least five minutes to do something for yourself. Then comment below and let me know what your favorite self-care activity is.
My name is Michelle and I am the wife of the hardest working man I know, the Mami of 3 beautiful and AMAZING girls and a Pathologists’ Assistant turned Stay at Home Mami turned Mompreneur of not one… or two… but three businesses! I am super excited to share my experiences and learn from you. As women/moms/entrepreneurs, we must stick together and support each other!